Sometimes if dealing with naughty children, parents gets emotionally affected or angry and reacted to child behaviour and punishes the child much more severe than if the parent is calm and act in a way of guiding the child.
Therefore remember to act (controlled) than react (uncontrolled) when dealing with important issues and regret afterwards.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Salt and Bread
It is said that war and peace comes from the word of salt and bread in ancient arabic and hebrew.
This points out that salt could be the first thing people fight over and if people shared bread it is a sign of peace.
Quote from history of salt.
Not only did salt serve to flavor and preserve food, it made a good antiseptic, which is why the Roman word for these salubrious crystals (sal) is a first cousin to Salus, the goddess of health. Of all the roads that led to Rome, one of the busiest was the Via Salaria, the salt route, over which Roman soldiers marched and merchants drove oxcarts full of the precious crystals up the Tiber from the salt pans at Ostia. A soldier's pay—consisting in part of salt—came to be known as solarium argentum, from which we derive the word salary. A soldier's salary was cut if he "was not worth his salt," a phrase that came into being because the Greeks and Romans often bought slaves with salt.
Perhaps i will be more grateful for the salt i come across knowing how precious it was in ancient time.
This points out that salt could be the first thing people fight over and if people shared bread it is a sign of peace.
Quote from history of salt.
Not only did salt serve to flavor and preserve food, it made a good antiseptic, which is why the Roman word for these salubrious crystals (sal) is a first cousin to Salus, the goddess of health. Of all the roads that led to Rome, one of the busiest was the Via Salaria, the salt route, over which Roman soldiers marched and merchants drove oxcarts full of the precious crystals up the Tiber from the salt pans at Ostia. A soldier's pay—consisting in part of salt—came to be known as solarium argentum, from which we derive the word salary. A soldier's salary was cut if he "was not worth his salt," a phrase that came into being because the Greeks and Romans often bought slaves with salt.
Perhaps i will be more grateful for the salt i come across knowing how precious it was in ancient time.
愛 or 爱
This is really interesting study into the meaning behind the changes in chinese character.
For the new character and the old style is only missing a heart character. main point is to make it easier to write but people have assign deeper meaning to this change.
海誓山盟何足凭,爱到无心见真心
love without heart, (in this case heart refers to self) means selfless love. so if one love until forgets about self and only think of others it is true love.
While the explaination for the character in old style is more interesting. It is symbolically means to capture one's friend hidden heart. to do this one must first open own heart. only heart can capture heart. just as only love and repay love's debt. It seems being happy (open heart) together in chinese is path towards love. =)
在上古，“朋”和“友”是有区别的：
“同门曰朋”，即师从同一个老师的人称为“朋”；
“同志曰友”，即志同道合之人称为“友”。
综上所述，“爱”的字义就是要抓住“朋友”的“心”！
然而，这个“朋友”的“心”是被“冖”所“覆盖”和“掩饰”了的，而要真正做到能够抓住这个“朋友”的“心”，就要让这个“朋友”对你不要“覆盖”和“掩饰”其心，让这个“朋友”对你“敞开心扉”！ 而要让这个“朋友”对你“敞开心扉”，你就必须“以心交心”。 而“以心交心”首先你自己就必须向你的朋友“敞开心扉”，让这个朋友对你有完完全全的了解。让他（她）了解你对他（她）的“情”，让他（她）了解你对他（她）的“关怀”、“关心”、“体贴”。要做到这一点，你就必须“细心”、“无微不至”、“细致入微”， 你就必须“倾心投入”、“倾情付出”！
这些，就是“爱”的实质内涵之意义！
Quote from http://baike.baidu.com/view/3516.htm
For the new character and the old style is only missing a heart character. main point is to make it easier to write but people have assign deeper meaning to this change.
海誓山盟何足凭,爱到无心见真心
love without heart, (in this case heart refers to self) means selfless love. so if one love until forgets about self and only think of others it is true love.
While the explaination for the character in old style is more interesting. It is symbolically means to capture one's friend hidden heart. to do this one must first open own heart. only heart can capture heart. just as only love and repay love's debt. It seems being happy (open heart) together in chinese is path towards love. =)
在上古，“朋”和“友”是有区别的：
“同门曰朋”，即师从同一个老师的人称为“朋”；
“同志曰友”，即志同道合之人称为“友”。
综上所述，“爱”的字义就是要抓住“朋友”的“心”！
然而，这个“朋友”的“心”是被“冖”所“覆盖”和“掩饰”了的，而要真正做到能够抓住这个“朋友”的“心”，就要让这个“朋友”对你不要“覆盖”和“掩饰”其心，让这个“朋友”对你“敞开心扉”！ 而要让这个“朋友”对你“敞开心扉”，你就必须“以心交心”。 而“以心交心”首先你自己就必须向你的朋友“敞开心扉”，让这个朋友对你有完完全全的了解。让他（她）了解你对他（她）的“情”，让他（她）了解你对他（她）的“关怀”、“关心”、“体贴”。要做到这一点，你就必须“细心”、“无微不至”、“细致入微”， 你就必须“倾心投入”、“倾情付出”！
这些，就是“爱”的实质内涵之意义！
Quote from http://baike.baidu.com/view/3516.htm
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Tao of Badminton
I come to realise the mental part of badminton by playing double. When team up with someone, there is teamwork and communication. During fast pace, knowing your partner is more important and knowing the opponents. Encouragement from partner to steady my thoughts and readiness to take the next exchange.
I like to think that like tai chi, badminton have flow. Go with the flow will keep the practise smooth. In competition then need to break the flow. Have and don't have in the mind will translate into have and don't have in the score.
Casual players can imitate swordsman style, more specific the mental game like a warrior. Enjoy the exercise.
I like to think that like tai chi, badminton have flow. Go with the flow will keep the practise smooth. In competition then need to break the flow. Have and don't have in the mind will translate into have and don't have in the score.
Casual players can imitate swordsman style, more specific the mental game like a warrior. Enjoy the exercise.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
敢问路在何方
Recently i listened to this song from Journey to the West. Really touched me about the journey when compared to journey of life. Where is the path that i should walk? Answer The road is beneath your leg. Just step and Keep Stepping.Step by Step one can achieve anything even going to the west 18000 miles by walking and faced with 81 disasters. Dare we ask where is the path?
你挑着担，我牵着马，
迎来日出送走晚霞。
踏平坎坷成大道，
斗罢艰险又出发，又出发。
啦……啦……
一番番春秋冬夏。
一场场酸甜苦辣。
敢问路在何方，路在脚下。
敢问路在何方，路在脚下。
你挑着担，我牵着马，
迎来日出送走晚霞。
踏平坎坷成大道，
斗罢艰险又出发，又出发。
啦……啦……
一番番春秋冬夏。
一场场酸甜苦辣。
敢问路在何方，路在脚下。
敢问路在何方，路在脚下。
Hold my Hand till I die
I had a dream about the death of a old man lying in a hospital bed. I am there to see him right before his death. He is suppose to be a famous taiost leader and led a life of giving. Right at his death bed i wanted to ask him for lesson in life. Instead he asked me to hold his hand. Then he passed away.
Even though this is a dream, but i experience it vividly. The lesson for me after sometime thinking on this is that i would like to have someone to hold my hand on my death bed as well. At that point in life, what else is there that is important? On this thought i am grateful for the work of Mother Teresa and Missionaries of Charity.
Even though this is a dream, but i experience it vividly. The lesson for me after sometime thinking on this is that i would like to have someone to hold my hand on my death bed as well. At that point in life, what else is there that is important? On this thought i am grateful for the work of Mother Teresa and Missionaries of Charity.
The Star Thrower
The Star Thrower by Loren Eiseley
Quote from wikipedia
"In a pool of sand and silt a starfish had thrust its arms up stiffly and was holding its body away from the stifling mud.
"It's still alive," I ventured.
"Yes," he said, and with a quick yet gentle movement he picked up the star and spun it over my head and far out into the sea. It sunk in a burst of spume, and the waters roared once more.
..."There are not many who come this far," I said, groping in a sudden embarrassment for words. "Do you collect?"
"Only like this," he said softly, gesturing amidst the wreckage of the shore. "And only for the living." He stooped again, oblivious of my curiosity, and skipped another star neatly across the water. "The stars," he said, "throw well. One can help them."
..."I do not collect," I said uncomfortably, the wind beating at my garments. "Neither the living nor the dead. I gave it up a long time ago. Death is the only successful collector."
”
—The Star Thrower, p. 172
I am inspired by the work for the living. Each star thrown back is a life. Perhaps it will make a difference. This is one of the belief that can keep one doing charity work. Of course at the end Death is the only successful collector, who is to say we cannot enjoy ourselves until then?
Quote from wikipedia
"In a pool of sand and silt a starfish had thrust its arms up stiffly and was holding its body away from the stifling mud.
"It's still alive," I ventured.
"Yes," he said, and with a quick yet gentle movement he picked up the star and spun it over my head and far out into the sea. It sunk in a burst of spume, and the waters roared once more.
..."There are not many who come this far," I said, groping in a sudden embarrassment for words. "Do you collect?"
"Only like this," he said softly, gesturing amidst the wreckage of the shore. "And only for the living." He stooped again, oblivious of my curiosity, and skipped another star neatly across the water. "The stars," he said, "throw well. One can help them."
..."I do not collect," I said uncomfortably, the wind beating at my garments. "Neither the living nor the dead. I gave it up a long time ago. Death is the only successful collector."
”
—The Star Thrower, p. 172
I am inspired by the work for the living. Each star thrown back is a life. Perhaps it will make a difference. This is one of the belief that can keep one doing charity work. Of course at the end Death is the only successful collector, who is to say we cannot enjoy ourselves until then?
Passion Passion Where are you?
I was having hot chocolate with my friend discussing about passion when i decided to find out what is passion.
Quote from wikipedia
"Passion ( from Latin verb patior meaning to suffer or to endure) is an emotion applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. The term is also often applied to a lively or eager interest in or admiration for a proposal, cause, or activity or love. Passion can be expressed as a feeling of unusual excitement, enthusiasm or compelling emotion towards a subject, idea, person, or object. A person is said to have a passion for something when he has a strong positive affinity for it. A love for something and a passion for something are often used synonymously."
I like the explanation to suffer or to endure being the root where passion comes from. It is through doing and keep doing that i can say i am passionate about something. It is not always that i am passionate about something that i go and do it. Rather is because i jump in and do it that along the way i suffered and endured then i continue to do it making it part of my life like breathing that i would understand i am passionate about this.
Where is my passion? Where can i have the heart to suffer and endure?
Quote from wikipedia
"Passion ( from Latin verb patior meaning to suffer or to endure) is an emotion applied to a very strong feeling about a person or thing. Passion is an intense emotion compelling feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. The term is also often applied to a lively or eager interest in or admiration for a proposal, cause, or activity or love. Passion can be expressed as a feeling of unusual excitement, enthusiasm or compelling emotion towards a subject, idea, person, or object. A person is said to have a passion for something when he has a strong positive affinity for it. A love for something and a passion for something are often used synonymously."
I like the explanation to suffer or to endure being the root where passion comes from. It is through doing and keep doing that i can say i am passionate about something. It is not always that i am passionate about something that i go and do it. Rather is because i jump in and do it that along the way i suffered and endured then i continue to do it making it part of my life like breathing that i would understand i am passionate about this.
Where is my passion? Where can i have the heart to suffer and endure?
Listening to my heart
People like to say listen to your heart and you will know what is right.
I took this literally by buying a stetoscope to actually listen to my heart. I didn't know what does lup dup dup lup sound tell me what is right. So i thought it is just crap.
Then realisation hit me that the heart keeps beating for me to keep me alive. It doesn't care whether i am sad or happy, positive thinking or not but just does it's best to keep me alive.
That realisation really make my day that no matter what there is my heart still beating for me until i die. If the heart does not give up why should i?
So perhaps there is something to this listening to heart thingy or i completely miss the idea haha.
I took this literally by buying a stetoscope to actually listen to my heart. I didn't know what does lup dup dup lup sound tell me what is right. So i thought it is just crap.
Then realisation hit me that the heart keeps beating for me to keep me alive. It doesn't care whether i am sad or happy, positive thinking or not but just does it's best to keep me alive.
That realisation really make my day that no matter what there is my heart still beating for me until i die. If the heart does not give up why should i?
So perhaps there is something to this listening to heart thingy or i completely miss the idea haha.
It is because I love you that you are beautiful
It is not because you are beautiful that I love you. It is because I love you that you are beautiful.
Some people say power of love can affect one's perception or in this case eyesight. Therefore the saying Blinded by love.
Perhaps it is true that if I love you everything about you suddenly became "nice". If i hate you even if u give me $ it will be "blood" money according to my perception.
I think it is romantic to be able to say It is because I love you that you are beautiful. If the word beautiful is substituted by successful, handsome, confident, powerful etc it can work as well. Can this be the basis for saying behind a successful man is a woman?
Some people say power of love can affect one's perception or in this case eyesight. Therefore the saying Blinded by love.
Perhaps it is true that if I love you everything about you suddenly became "nice". If i hate you even if u give me $ it will be "blood" money according to my perception.
I think it is romantic to be able to say It is because I love you that you are beautiful. If the word beautiful is substituted by successful, handsome, confident, powerful etc it can work as well. Can this be the basis for saying behind a successful man is a woman?
Monday, October 4, 2010
Compassion
Compassion is letting other people live in your heart.
The chinese express joy as 开心. Which translates to open heart. Not open heart surgery but rather means open to people living in your heart. Who is in my heart?
The other word for joy is 快乐 Immediate/fast happpiness. this will be more modern happiness. Instant gratification. If i get that toto first prize perhaps i will be 快乐
Where does compassion comes into my life? Do i practice acts of compassion?
The chinese express joy as 开心. Which translates to open heart. Not open heart surgery but rather means open to people living in your heart. Who is in my heart?
The other word for joy is 快乐 Immediate/fast happpiness. this will be more modern happiness. Instant gratification. If i get that toto first prize perhaps i will be 快乐
Where does compassion comes into my life? Do i practice acts of compassion?
Live a life by what we give
We make a living by what we get, we live a life by what we give. Interesting saying that i came across.
Usually i will be asking what do i get if i give? perhaps i should be asking what do i give if i want to really live?
Give my time, give my concern, give my care, give my money, give my thought......
Someone told me that we know that we love only when we give. Can be a sacrifice, can be a joy to give depends on the way to see it.
Another nice quote:
There are two lasting gifts we can give our children. One is roots and the other is wings. Holding Carter
Roots to keep them stable and nourish them. Wings so that they can fly high.
Usually i will be asking what do i get if i give? perhaps i should be asking what do i give if i want to really live?
Give my time, give my concern, give my care, give my money, give my thought......
Someone told me that we know that we love only when we give. Can be a sacrifice, can be a joy to give depends on the way to see it.
Another nice quote:
There are two lasting gifts we can give our children. One is roots and the other is wings. Holding Carter
Roots to keep them stable and nourish them. Wings so that they can fly high.
围棋 vs Chess
In chess players accomplish victory by decimating opposing forces and capturing the king. While in wei qi the victory goes to the player that have more stones that the other thus focus on capturing position and converting opponents strategy to support one's strategy. chess have more tactics to get clear objective immediately. wei qi perhaps less apparent and will go for long term gain.
Life can be a game of chess to gain more power through eliminating others or it can be a game of weiqi, making a stand to advance ones influence regardless if the opponent is eliminated or not.
Where am i playing chess or weiqi in my life?
Life can be a game of chess to gain more power through eliminating others or it can be a game of weiqi, making a stand to advance ones influence regardless if the opponent is eliminated or not.
Where am i playing chess or weiqi in my life?
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