Nature vs. Nurture

Posted October 2007

2 weeks ago 22nd sept, i attended an interesting training for social
worker with Trans Center where i do my volunteer work (teach a kid
tuition).

One of the topics, is regarding nature and nurture part of people's
life. The trainer assert that there are things that we cannot change
as a person. These are our genes and all that comes with it (nature).
What we can change is the nurture part. Which also play a part in
developing character.

One of the exercise i participated in is roleplaying. A few of us
took part in a discussion to plan for an event for children. The
interesting part is on our forehead are written what people think of
us and how they should react to each of us in the roleplaying.
e.g.
Role 1: Stupid ( Ignore whatever i say)
Role 2: Boss (Follow exactly whatever i say)
Role 3: Expert ( Ask me for Advise)
Role 4: Deviant (Disagree with whatever i say)

The results is really tough to complete the task. One particular
insight is that group dynamics managed to shut up people who wanted
to contribute but were label stupid/ deviant eventually kept quiet.
People who usually quiet at first are pressured to excel
(Boss/Expert) and run the whole show. The effects of nurture is
really highlighted.

Point of learning: As social worker, parents and a part of society,
one way we can contribute to people is be the listening ear, give
understanding, encouragement and appreciation. It really makes the
difference.

Note:
Children more than adults needs Love and Attention to grow. Parents,
i encourage to give lots of verbal and physical expression of love
to growing children.
(i have seen the opposite spectrum, people who have to constantly be
labeled as unimportant, naughty, stubborn, violent. Really sad to
see this).

If you expose to people suffering from lack of these positive
nurturing, please take heart and show them otherwise. Deep down i
believe that people can make the change.

Which is one of the reasons i can keep volunteering now